Mars, Venus, and Solving Furniture Disagreements
What's the best way to resolve the differences between what you and your spouse prefer? Experts suggest a variety of methods, but which one works for you will depend on your personalities and the depth of the disagreement. Some of these suggestions should help.
Find Common Ground
Try to determine the things you can agree on, then work from there. Look at the chart on the previous page for areas of harmony. Maybe you both like green colors and pine furniture. Perhaps it's stripes and a nautical theme. Or, it might be a beautiful rug you bought on vacation and the armoire you got for your 5th Anniversary. Start there and see if the other room details fall into place around it.
Merge Your "Likes"
Sometimes it's possible to incorporate some of "his" with some of "her" elements in a room. Mix straight lines (for him) with some curved lines (for her). Buy a sturdy, comfortable sofa he likes, and add floral pillows on it that she likes. Use a color scheme she likes and include a leather chair that he likes. Compromise is key. A family room, for example, might use a plain background, strong architectural lines, dark woods, and bold stripes that appeal to a man. However, it can also incorporate some bright floral fabrics, accessories, and details to appeal to a woman.
Divide and Conquer
When space allows, it is sometimes helpful to designate "his" and "hers" areas that each of you can decorate as you please. Perhaps his room is the family room, while her private space is the home office. Each individual will have a private retreat that reflects their personal taste and comfort level.
Hire a Mediator
Hiring an interior designer is another great way to resolve differences. Each spouse should have ample opportunity to express opinions and desires, then it's up to the designer to suggest suitable compromises to incorporate elements that will please both parties. You'll probably be able to avoid serious disagreements and end up with a home that is both functional for him and beautiful for her. Everyone's happy.
